Expectations
Let's lay a few things on the table to get this started:
I don't expect very much from you, and I don't expect very much from any human in general.
I expect humans to be driven by pleasure, comfort and their own cognitive addictions. I expect people to attempt change and then fall back into their own recurring life patterns. Because I generally expect these things, I'm never really disappointed --- I don't have expectations placed on people to be anything because I already know how the patterns naturally fall in reality.
Call it being a realist --- whatever you want to call it --- I simply see it as a cyclical human behaviour. Over time, the pattern of personal bias proves to be so much stronger than the pattern of personal growth. This is why I expect a pattern of unimpressive behavior and live a life free of disappointment. But to be honest, typical unimpressive behaviour isn’t really a turn-on.
The switch
Personally, the thing that really gives my body energy and life, the thing that really brings my frequency up to a new level, is when someone acts against their cognitive biases and mental programming to induce suffering on themselves to expand their own mind.
It’s as if you’re looking at someone with a drug addiction.
Generally, you'd feel kind of bad for them; you'd want to help them, and perhaps you'd even try to help them. Nevertheless, they keep going into their same cycle of behavior. You want to do something, but at the end the day you usually realise how its a disheartening situation of this person having to choose for themselves to get out --- to bring themselves out of this place in order to move forward in life.
This same principle applies to people who were addicted to their in-built skillsets, their own cognitive bias and programming, rather than to reflect on how they can work on underdeveloped areas of their own personality.
But for the people who see and then seek to build up their weaknesses: I see them as highly intelligent.
They've realised that if they're willing to experience discomfort in the temporal, it will pay off in the long run and that, to me, is very wildly attractive and inspiring. It inspires me as a human being; 'Yes human, I had low expectations for you but you beat them.'
Well the thing is, I badly want someone to prove me wrong. I want people to disprove the patterns. When someone fights against that pattern and they change it for themselves, I go: 'Wow... what a human.'
What Excellence Means
Working on ones' areas of weakness is a regular routine.
It's a system of practice within your own mind, your own self, that you are tying yourself to in order to continuously progress over time.
It's not a one-and-done, put-a-bandaid-on-now-it's-fixed situation, because you're always going to be proficient in your in-built skillsets; you're always going to be good at your natural cognitive programming. But your weaknesses are always going to require practice and maintenance over time. If you get really good at building up those weaker skillsets, you could be better at them than someone who possesses them as a natural strength.
And I want to be very excellent at all the things I believe are most important to excel in.
Conclusion
So why is this so hot? Why is this quality so attractive to me?
It's because being addicted to your in-built strengths causes you to be dependent. You'd be able to handle certain limited aspects of your life based on your stronger skillsets, but for the things you haven't worked, on you'd become dependent on someone else for those. And when you're dependent on some someone else for something, to me it's just a sign of cognitive weakness.
I didn't mean to say it like that, but that's the truth. That's what it is.
I believe independence is the first step. Then comes interdependence, where you can take all of the strengths you've accumulated through your life through all of the areas of balance and combine them with someone else's life experiences to create a new articulated reality for both of you.
How amazing is that?
Forcing the growth, forcing the pain --- to work through the things that your mind does not want to do because it feels uncomfortable. Being able to achieve that independence and then interdependence, I think, is one of the most attractive qualities the most attractive quality in any human. Because it shows that you're willing to be capable; you're willing to not be mentally weak.
Lastly, it's okay that we all have moments of weakness. We all have moments where we can't do that thing today.
That is okay; that's part of the human experience. What's most admirable is that, even when you've had a bad day, you get up. And next thing you say is: "I'm going right back at it as if yesterday never happened."
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